‘Love is not a place to come and go as we please. It’s a house we enter into then commit to never leave. So lock the door behind you, throw away the keys, work it out together. Let it bring us to our knees. Love is a shelter in a raging storm. Love is the peace in the middle of a war. If we try to leave, may God send an angel to guard the door. Love is not a fight, but it’s something worth fighting for……’- words from a song titled Love is not a fight by Warren Barfield.

Question: Do you know love? If you do, do you embrace it or do you fight it? Love is not a fight but it’s something worth for. This song changed my perception on love and to date it is  teacher in this matter called love.

What is love? – a strong feeling of affection, a great interest and pleasure in something, a warm feeling that we feel around people, things or places we appreciate e. t. c. Love can be described in many ways by different people, but bottom line is – we all need love whether we know it or not, further we all have the capacity to give it out if we want to.

Love is like an air of fresh breath. And if it was food, then it would be everyone’s favourite fot it’s taste is unmatched. If it were a fragrance, then we would all want to be around it for it’s sweet and pleasant scent. And if it were a drink then we would all want to quench our souls with it. If it were a colour, it would be everyone’s favourite because of it’s attractiveness to the eye, subtle and cool.

What is a need? It is something essential or very important rather than just desirable. Needs are things we cannot live without. We need water, air and food to survive. We also need love for it is crucial for survival. Why do I say crucial – because many people suffer from lack of it. Example:- depression – a disease of the mind that can affect anyone if we are not careful and it’s generally caused by, just to mention a few:-

  • Abuse. Past physical, sexual, or emotional abuse can increase the vulnerability to clinical depression later in life.
  • Other personal problems. Problems such as social isolation due to other mental illnesses or being cast out of a family or social group can contribute to the risk of developing clinical depression.
  • Conflict. Depression in someone who has the biological vulnerability to develop depression may result from personal conflicts or disputes with family members or friends.

We may have food, water and other essentials but, if we lack love then there is no meaning for anything, and that is why sadly some people opt for suicide to end all the pain caused by lack of it.

We need love and cannot live without it. If so, why do we fight it? I have come to learn we fight it not because we want to, but because we don’t understand it hence we destroy a priceless gift given to us by the Yahweh – freely! Over time through my own life experiences, I have learnt that love is very powerful and precious to mankind. It is the beginning of progress, growth and peace to mankind and because of this the devil tries to away take it away from us at every given opportunity and sometimes he wins!

Human beings are made from love, So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them’ {Genesis 1:27}. Who is God? God is love {1 John 4:8}. If God created us and He is love, then it means that every ingredient that makes up the human being – mind, body, soul and spirit is love! This then means that when we rise up against love – we rise up against ourselves. When we destroy it – we destroy ourselves.

Can you sight incidences of love in your life? Can you sight the benefits of this love to you? Can you remember how good it feels to be shown love, the peace and the joy that comes with being loved? The above☝☝☝ are pictures laced with love and my hope is that we can get lost in these images and remember love – remember how good it feels to love and to be loved.  For me I remember love like this:-

  • how sometimes when it got dark, and I am out late, I would usually call my brother to come pick me from where I was and walk me home because I feared the dark. He would come even when I got him out of sleep! – love
  • I remember when my colleagues contributed money to help in my aunt’s burial expenses – that sacrifice of money is a show of love.
  • I remember when one time as we were preparing for the next worship session, I got an attack. So, my fellow team members stopped the preparation for the upcoming songs to take time and pray for me – I got delivered from the attack, we continued well and the presence of the Spirit was felt- that is love.
  • I remember when my mum used to stay up late in the night with me as I wrote articles that needed to be published weekly at our church pamphlets. She would have chosen to sleep on her comfortable bed but she choose to sleep on the sofa and keep me company -that is love.

I speak of passionately about love because I faced the lack of it in my life especially through rejection and it terrible! Sometimes rejection around me would be so bad that just a taste of love was enough. Jesus Christ attracted me to himself through love and I couldn’t resist. It’s something I didn’t quite know and I needed so bad that when I got it – it became my food, my water, my breath and my life. It is currently my everything.

From my point of view, I feel we fight love because:

1) We don’t know it.

2)We don’t understand how it works.

  • Like I said before love is good, beautiful and strong, but we may not have grasped it like the devil has and that’s why we suffer so much when we want and desire it because he knows it’s power, hates it and likes to crush it at every given opportunity. You see the devil knows about love more than we do – he knows it’s benefits, power and might. He does not have it inside of him, but he knows about it. And if love is God-  be rest assured the devil knows about him more than we do. The good news though, is that the devil has no power over love for love is and will always be more powerful than the devil. Now, assume you don’t know the value of gold. If this is the case you would probably toss it aside. The fact that you tossed it aside doesn’t mean it lost it’s value! It just means you were not smart enough and someone who knows it and values it will be blessed by the benefits that come from it. Likewise, if we toss love aside because of arrogance, pride, bitterness, hate, desire for vengeance and the likes, then we are the ones to lose out!


  • Because we don’t understand how love works -we take it for granted. Love is patient and kind so be patient with people, you will need them one day. No one stays in the  same position for ever, they will change and when they do, where will you be?  Love is not jealous – this brings discord among people and it’s set out to destroy love. If you want love to last and want to continue enjoying the benefits of it in friendships, then be content with what you have and be happy for others. Love is strong – It’s not meant to be weak, give in or give up. So, when we give up on family members because of their weakness then it means we don’t know that love is meant to be resilient and it’s this resilience that it goes to change even the hardest of hearts.

In conclusion I would say, love is good, kind, strong and just nice. It goes to do good to the receiver and never wants to harm. It always does what is best; bringing hope and cheer all around. Love is God meaning it is strength, power, freedom and sweetness all wrapped in one. Love is not just an ordinary feeling rather it is a powerful feeling with a grace behind it meaning we are not alone in this. We have the strength in us to love and to continue feeling it. Further, it means we have the capacity to share even to the hardest of  hearts and hence our peace and joy that surpasses human understanding.

Fighting for love may not be so easy, but knowing love and remembering what love is can go along way in helping us to maintain it.

I love you and I hope this article will help remember love, thank God for it and by His grace –  fight for it. God bless you.

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